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Frequently Asked Questions

It's understandable for people to have questions when it comes to any new experience.
It is our aim to make the visit to Crossroads as comfortable, relaxed and enjoyable as possible so we've put together a list of questions we are often asked.

Obviously, we are not able to answer everything here, so please feel free to Contact Us if you have any query not completely answered here.

Who is welcome?
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Anyone who identifies themselves on the transgender spectrum. The defined transgender parameters are dynamic and often change and adapt but broadly speaking, it is anyone who identifies or dresses as other than their birth gender. More details can be found in our Inclusion Policy.

Who is not welcome?
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Those who are admirers only of trans-people (are not trans themselves). We are not a dating group. More details can be found in our Inclusion Policy.

Do I need to dress when I come along?
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For the first visit, it is fine to wear whatever you are comfortable in. After that, we ask you wear clothing in your chosen gender/style you identify as.

I am nervous about my first visit. What can I do?
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It is completely understandable going into an unknown environment, but possibly even more so if it is your first time ‘dressed’ in front of others or outside your home. Before your first visit to Crossroads, please Contact us. We can chat via phone or email before your visit or meet you at the door or outside the building on the evening. Remember, Wick Village Hall has its own private car park, off the main road away from the general public.

How do I get to you?
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Wick is on the A420, between Bristol and Chippenham. Due to the times we run (7:30 to 10:30pm), public transport is not an option so car is the main method.

Do you just meet once a month?
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Generally, yes. We meet every 4th Saturday of the month. However, we occasionally have external events or activities and these would be promoted via email or during a regular meeting.

Can I bring a family member or supportive friend?
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Support is very important and Crossroads welcomes anyone who accompanies a trans person for support. This can be a family member, work colleague or friend. They do not need to be trans themselves.

Can I bring my own food and drinks?
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Absolutely. We do provide tea, coffee and biscuits on each table and also run events such as the BBQ and High-Tea. But if you wish to bring your own supplies, please do. You may bring your own alcohol, but be mindful if you are driving.

Can I wear whatever I like?
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Not exactly. We do have a dress code which generally means what you wear should be decent, non-fetish or overtly sexual. More can be found on our Inclusion Policy.

Can I bring my children with me?
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Children may attend with their parents/guardian. Bear in mind that there is not much for children to do at the venue. We suggest you contact us to discuss this.

What can I do if I feel I’m being bullied/ judged/ not being accepted?
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It is extremely important you feel relaxed and accepted for who you are. If, at any time you are visiting us, you feel any negative feelings from another member, please tell us immediately. Any form of negative communication (verbal, looks etc.) will not be tolerated.

My child is trans. Can they attend?
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Children under 18 must be accompanied by an appropriate adult. Our age demographic is towards the more mature trans person so we usually suggest younger people look at organisations specifically set up for young people. Nationally that is Mermaids, locally there is Off The Record (Bristol & Bath) and Alphabets (Diversity Trust, in Yate). Please see the Links page.

I am supporting a trans person who has special needs. Can they attend?
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If they are living fully independently then they may attend on their own. If they are not able to live independently (supported at home, or in residential care) then we insist on them being accompanied by a parent or support worker (who attends for free). We do this for the trans person’s and our safety as we are not trained professional support workers.